What is it about HER!

You go through life day after day doing the same dull things and all the sudden, BAM! You have eye contact with HER!
At first, you dismiss it as a fleeting moment. But you can’t get her out of your head. You have seen her around the office several times. She even belongs to the same gym where you work out. You think she has a boyfriend, but you aren’t quite sure.
You’ve seen prettier women, but this one is different. She actually talked to you. She touched your arm when she was pointing something out to you. She acted like you were the only person on the earth that could understand her. You can remember the way she smells, the way her hair curls slightly to the right, and how her clothes fit her curvy body. You notice that her eyes change colors when she’s excited about a new idea, how they go from green with gold flecks to the deepest blue you have ever seen.
You can’t seem to get her out of your mind and you have no idea why. You just know that you love spending time with her and going over new plans and ideas even if it is afterhours and you know you should be home.
You look down at your left hand and realize that ring that was placed there over five years ago hasn’t changed. You are still married to a wonderful woman, but lately there aren’t any sparks. It’s the same old dull routine day in and day out. You can’t remember what your wife’s hair smells like because you have been spending 60 hours a week at the office. When you aren’t at the office, you are at the gym trying to keep your stress at a minimum level so you can stay healthy for your job.
To appease your wife, you had your assistant send her flowers last week to let her know you hadn’t forgotten about her. You don’t bother coming home early anymore. She is usually asleep by the time you get there anyway. You can’t remember the last time you had a sit-down dinner at home because you are constantly spending time with the woman who gives you attention and plays with your emotions. She is the one that will be the end of your marriage and you don’t even know if she is single and would want to date you.
Before you screw up your marriage, you have some hard questions to ask yourself.
1. Was your wife attentive when you were coming home at a decent time every day?
2. Has your wife let herself go because you are never around anymore?
3. Have you paid attention to your wife lately since you’ve been gone most hours of the day?
4. When was the last time you took your wife away for a mini-vacation?
5. When was the last time you really took an interest in what your wife was doing while you were away from the house?
Lack of Attention and Money are the two biggest argument starters and leading causes of divorce.
Most couples can’t remember when the last time was that they got dressed up and took time to make their appearances enticing just for a “date night”. Couples forget that a simple “touch” can add sparks to a relationship.
You have forgotten what it feels like to actually touch your wife in that special place and have her moan or move closer to you, to admire you with all her heart, to engage you in an intimate conversation because she misses spending time with you.
Couples aren’t spending as much time together as they did 40 years ago because of the lifestyle they have chosen where both partners have to bring in an income. It’s taking everyone to help make a comfortable lifestyle. That doesn’t mean that you have to give up your marriage for someone else who might have shown a bit of interest in your thoughts. Remember that your wife admires you and your hard work to help provide for her even if she doesn’t show you every day. You need to admire her back and let her know how much you love her every day to protect your marriage.
Hopefully I’ve touched on some heartstrings and made you think twice before giving up on your marriage for a woman you barely know.
I’m a wife and mother who had ups and downs in marriage. I’ve written a free report on the “8 Vital Mistakes To Avoid in a Breakup Situation”. To get the free report, email me at guardiansofsa@aol.com For more ways to add the Spark or Magic back to your relationship, start at Magic of Making Up

Are you cheating with an online relationship?

Let’s first describe what an online relationship is. An online relationship is one that is formed between two or more people in a social network. Any social network will do, i.e. Facebook, MySpace, Netlog, any online virtual gaming site, etc.


Online relationship cheating is even easier than cheating in real life. In real life, you have to re-arrange your schedule to make time for a new relationship. In an online relationship setting, it’s easily covered up with “I’m working on some stuff from work on the internet”.

Here are the symptoms of online relationship cheaters:

1. Can’t wait to spend time on the chat room where you two met, even if no one is in there at the time.

2. Spend all day in chat rooms or on Facebook hoping for an IM (instant message) instead of doing your work. Do we really need to take away your internet, so you can stay focused?

3. Signing up for new social networks to hide your footprints. Let’s face is, unless you are an IT genius, there are footprints your loved one will find if they really want too.

4. No interest in making your real partner happy anymore. Who cares that they just devoted years to making you happy and comfortable? They aren’t spicy and interesting anymore. They don’t give you that spark of “naughtiness” like the online relationship does.

5. Finally, you consider divorce as an option at least 100 times a day even though the other person in your life hasn’t done anything to deserve it. They have been giving you the space you asked for and here’s how you want to repay them; by crushing them.

I’ve been on both sides of the online relationship cheating game. It’s not nice to think that your partner is just asking for more space to get his/her work done when they are actually playing with their online partner. It seems fun in the beginning when there is an element of mystery and intrigue to that online relationship. Just remember, it never lasts unless you are in a relationship like mine, where no two days are ever the same and every day is an adventure.

Things to think about before you go any further with your online relationship cheating:

Think about your partner and how you would feel if they were doing it to you.

Think about how you will support yourself and your habits on one income (since you want to divorce your partner anyway).

Think about how the online relationship is going to continue. Is it going to cross over to reality or stay in the cyber world?

And, if you are one who seeks approval from your family, think how they will react to your news of pending divorce and hooking up with a cyber partner from the internet… Get ready for a lot of ridicule.

Getting Over Your Breakup

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How to Prevent Becoming The Psycho EX

Do you have these symptoms?


-Leaving the radio off because every song makes you cry

-Loss of appetite

-Binge eating for comfort

-Calling your ex several times a day

-Text messaging and emailing constantly (Text Message Terrorism)

-Constantly checking your email and voice mail to see if he/she called

-Not going out because you are afraid to miss a call

-Thinking non-stop about why they REALLY left you

-Feeling massively depressed

-Feeling urges to spy on them

-Endlessly rehearsing what you should have said

-Endlessly rehearsing what you will say if you bump into them


…and when you do get a hold of them, it usually turns ugly because without a clear plan of what you are supposed to do… what happens?

P-A-N-I-C ...defensiveness ...arguments ...and then it gets really nasty.

Listen to what T. Dub has to say to prevent becoming the PSYCHO Ex.


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Getting Your Ex To Call You Back

re there 'magic' words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls?
Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call.

Cool huh?...

I am going to share this with you because this is one of the biggest questions I get from the over 35,000 subscribers just like you that are trying to put their relationship back together.

So I am going to answer..."How do I get my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?"

BUT...

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WARNING!
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In the Magic Of Making Up, I lay out a complete strategy.

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If you use this technique alone, without an 'overall' plan or strategy...you may damage your relationship more than if they never returned your call.

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What NOT to Say!
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Before we get into the actual words, let's go over what message almost NEVER works.

and worse...

Puts you in an AWFUL 'psychological' position.


These usually fall into 2 categories.

The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like "John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you."


And the EMERGENCY- "Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this."

Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches?

So, I won't go on and on...

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How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest
To Your Advantage
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Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are

*Curiosity &

*Self Interest


And here's the BIG SECRET!
When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work 'magic'

So...

Let's look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME.

In a friendly tone:
"Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person."
 
Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest?

John will NOT be able to resist! "What did I do?"

"What does she appreciate?" he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message.
Now...

Before you call you need to do the "Set Up"...which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate.
It can be any small thing...but needs to be plausible.

But more importantly...

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2nd WARNING!
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Please have an underlying strategy like I lay out in the Magic Of Making Up System BEFORE you call.

If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back you can do more DAMAGE than good if you do not handle it correctly.

Okay?

What I am saying is...

What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call.

Make sense?

Have a PLAN!==><<Magic of Making Up System>>
Rooting for ya,
T. Dub

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